Starry-eyed strangers

Have you ever felt this strange feeling that you are being watched all the time? Or wondered if you have become famous over night without your knowledge? Yes you have earned the empathy of fellow being-stared-at individual.

It is a known and a (sadly) accepted behavior of us Indians. This is what “Asians” are known for by the Caucasian or the westerners- they stare!!! Not like we should care right we are far more “cultured” and have a lot more “traditions” and “values” that we boast about and what are those beef eating French kissing westerners all about right???

Well but we have to face the fact that we stare not only at outsiders but everyone around us to make others either uncomfortable or embarrassed or something I seriously don’t get the reason behind this horrendous behavior. I mean c’mon people: Is there a hideous Martian on my shoulder or do I look like an alien to you??? And what painful is even the educated class do this, I mean from old respectable looking people to the simple home makers and the cool dudes and dudettes.

The worst affected are the female lot (yes all my articles comes down to that don’t ask me why) be it in casuals to sarees and salwars and burkahs. We females suffer the inexhaustible energy of the gaping strangers as if there was new flashing on our foreheads. Buzz buzz …This just in jaded-queen has become the President and has called for a law against staring without any obvious reasons…how that would be for a change…Keeping the jokes aside. We would be glad if the twinkling eyes of these strangers would stay in the face and the forehead region but they go down and that is just sick to the core of any human soul.

I was so glad that the Helmet rule was implemented in Bangalore and now atleast in the traffic signal the “Starers” could rest their eyes in this reference and the “Starees” could rest brains which other wise would be wondering :Oh my god I think I have mayonnaise on my face damn you Anushka wish you had seen it and told me to clean up!!! But my expectation was wrong, apparently I expected too much from my fellow being, nope we can expect them to not look. Now the pillions stare and when the driver with the helmet wants to stare, from the corner of your eyes you can see plastic sphere turning towards you with a human head inside.

Its not like only the female lots are the victims like the usual presumption but there are a few nasty unscrupulous girls and women out there who would not spare any man or even women his/her privacy and at the least respect for personal space. Oh don’t even get me started on the respect for personal space because we just feel so insecure without another life form with 0.009cm of the circumference of our bodies that a whole different thing. I know it may seem like a teeny tiny issue which, I a jobless person am blowing it out of proportion and all I could do was just ignore the stares and move on. Well I speak for the few people who cant ignore these gapes and gorging eyes this is very very very bad mannered of us so lets make a conscious effort to stop this. I mean it has reached up to the level of global popularity based on our nationality lets not do this and move on and learn respect an individual as an individual and not as a monument from the museum called the universe. And as for the people who enjoy this unduly attention don’t worry my estimation is this is going to stick on a long time…Sad but true….

Block or no Block....Thought or no thought

It’s been so long since I wrote that I can think of gazillion things to write about but no use it just doesn’t get to me. I don’t to write about suddenly I feel like it’s not worth it. Or may I feel it’s not worth it because I am unable to write.

Well to think of one thing the other day I was on the road on my bike minding my own business trying to get to work. And there they are the Scumbags trying to kill my whole day with their filthy mouths. As patient as we girls are we don’t like to give ‘em back not out of fear but just that its too much work and its not going to change a thing but this time I just couldn’t hold the little devil in or in this case the god I waited for him to look at me again showing full set of rotting teeth I blurted out "*#$%&(&(@#&^*!!!” and there you go his tiny teeny ego was crushed. All in between the road while driving, I looked at his bike’s number plate, in Kannada; ah there you go hiding behind that curtain, who will read a plate purely written in Kannada right. Well I can so can hundreds of other girls and as for girl from outstation I don’t think that should stop them either. Then hiked up the accelerator and caught up with them and told them in Kannada that I could read kannada and that I would meet them in the Police station soon. That’s it their road had a sudden twist, going out of their way to run away. Hoping that atleast these two guys would think thrice before they attempt to come up with the stats of another female I moved on. Sadly I knew it by default that our law is not going to protect us from such “silly encounters”. It’s not a big deal and don’t even get me started on parental support in such crusades. In worst Circumstances your parent might blame your dressing or some sort of bad behavior from your part yes that’s the best part. It’s funny but painfully true. Ask the 98% of the rape victims who did not muster up the courage to file a case. Ask the women who have wasted their youth and sacrificed their appetite for fun as escapism from these horrors. Yes the scientists say it’s in the male libido to be the way they are. Yes its in their Libido to disregard the feelings of their complimentary gender to abuse and exploit them in the name of their Libido. Its in their Libido to watch porn and hire prostitutes and to fall in “love” with someone and when rejected call her a whore. IN THEIR LIBIDO.

Brings me to one more thing, just another “silly” thing. While watching “Perfect Strangers” and as everyone knows its an A- rated movie, reasonably. But there they are again a bunch of guys come and all they can enjoy is the sleaze in it and nothing else waiting for a “rape scene”, I mean come on open your eyes its an A rated movie not an adult movie (blue film). First of all its so sad that we have to count the number of years we have been alive to make us adults rather than how much of brains do we actually have to enjoy a movie for the art it is for the beautiful medium it is. No we rather sit there and make noises with the bottles and wait for a man to force himself on a beautiful what is more entertaining than that right. Yes this is in their LIBIDOS too. Oh, and Perfect strangers they were!!!

There are very few men out their who have evolved out of their cocoons though and as I ve heard from them they are frequently asked wit questions like “Why are you so weird/uptight/abnormal, man you don’t check out girls at all?” or “So what if you have a girlfriend?” What is more appalling is in the name of equal rights and feminism girls are just going out of their way to get back into being the abused or exploited by being stupidly submissive and act like their worlds would be shattered if they did not have a man by their side. Is it just the Patriarchal acceptance that they sought or is it in our Instincts or libidos to be this way. All in all the sad part is we are just becoming numb and desensitized to the evanescence of civilization and respect for each other and ones spaces.

Well, is the writers block only brought about by ourselves when we know that we are convinced that it is not going to make a difference any ways. Or is it that our expressions are becoming too desensitized? Whatever it is all it comes down to is the ghastly sight of our behavior. Don’t ask me what the block has got to do with Libidos and feminism and behaviors all I know is I am pretty paranoid with everything around me…. anyone got any explanations? Im sure you’ll its after all the age when everyone has an opinion on everything and anything.

DISCLAIMER: Not written under any influence. (hehehe)